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From a concerned young mother
The news of the Bandar Utama case was almost too shocking to process: a 14-year-old boy fatally stabbed a 16-year-old girl at school, reportedly after harbouring unspoken feelings for her. Police said he bought the knife online, showed it to classmates, and may have been emotionally unstable.
A tragedy like this leaves us searching for answers. Why such a violent act? What are we missing in the lives of our young people?
In the days after, it was hard not to draw comparisons to &#8220;Adolescence&#8221;, the Netflix drama about a teenager whose loneliness and emotional turmoil spirals into a similar act.
The series, though fictional, now feels eerily prophetic. It reminds us that behind every shocking headline is not a monster, but a young person shaped by silence, pressure, and pain.
Adolescence is always a fragile stage of life. But today’s teenagers are growing up in a far more complex world, where online validation often replaces real connection, and emotional rejection can feel catastrophic.
In the Bandar Utama case, the boy had no prior disciplinary record. Outwardly, he seemed normal and fine. But sometimes, emotional distress cannot be seen on the surface.
Many children carry invisible burdens: the pressure to perform, fear of failure, confusion about identity, and constant comparison, worsened by social media. When these emotions go unspoken or dwell in isolation, they can become dangerous.
The real threat isn&#8217;t just the knife
The knife itself is horrifying, but it is also symbolic – a warning of what happens when emotional pain meets access and neglect.
Schools can tighten security, ban certain items or install cameras, but true safety is built on connection and trust.
Schools should be a space where students can seek help without shame, where counsellors are accessible, teachers are trained to spot emotional distress, and conversations about rejection, love, and self-worth are encouraged rather than stigmatised.
The education ministry&#8217;s decision to strengthen psychosocial support is a step in the right direction. But it must go beyond reacting to individual incidents. Young people need to be taught not just how to think, but how to feel.
When screens shape emotions
Social media adds another layer to this crisis. In an era of instant gratification, teenagers are learning about love, loss, and violence from platforms or forms of media that reward intensity over balance. Many absorb lessons about relationships not from family or school, but from entertainment that blurs the line between healthy affection and possessiveness.
The show &#8220;Adolescence&#8221; portrays this vividly; a parallel that is deeply unsettling.
We can no longer dismiss what children watch or scroll through as “just entertainment”. These platforms shape how they see themselves, others, and conflict. Emotional education must go hand in hand with digital literacy: teaching young people to question, critique, and emotionally process what they see online.
Beyond blame
It’s tempting to look for someone to blame – the internet, parenting, weak discipline, mental health systems. But this tragedy is not the failure of a single factor; it is a combination of a boy who felt unseen, a family unsure of how to process difficult emotions, a school that missed warning signs, and a society that still treats emotional pain as weakness.
This is not about pointing fingers. It is about opening our eyes to the bigger problem.
A mirror we cannot turn away from
In one of its final scenes, &#8220;Adolescence&#8221; poses a haunting question: &#8220;If someone had really seen him, would it have happened?&#8221;
That question now belongs to Malaysia. The Bandar Utama tragedy is not just a story of violence; it’s a mirror. It reflects the cracks in how we raise, listen to, and value our young people.
If fiction once served as a warning, it is now a true reflection. We cannot say we didn’t see it coming.
The way forward
We owe it to both children in this tragedy – the one who lost her life, and the one who lost his way – to respond with empathy, not just outrage.
This means making mental health a pillar of our education system, not an optional service. Train teachers and parents to recognise emotional distress early. Enforce stricter online sales and monitoring of weapons. Create national campaigns that normalise emotional conversations and destigmatise seeking help.
Most of all, it means seeing our teenagers – really seeing them, not only when they achieve, but even in their struggles – and having the willingness to walk alongside them.
The most dangerous silence isn’t the one after tragedy. It’s the one before it.
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Author’s name withheld for privacy.
The views expressed are those of the writer and do not necessarily reflect those of FMT.

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